Mutual CareTry it

Marcus Bell

Family Dinner Dallas–Fort Worth · Thursday Table

Two sides of the same person. What would land for you, and what you are happy to do for someone else. Care stays open in both directions. An MC is a person you both designate for one specific act.

One-click care

The things someone can send without texting you for details. We start with your FDF profile, then you only fill in what is missing.

Started from your FDF profile. Your birthday, favorites, delivery address, and household profile came with you.

Your address stays private and is shared with the selected provider only at checkout.

Favorite dinner

The half chicken

Uber Eats

From FDF

Favorite dessert

Peach cobbler

DoorDash

From FDF

Snack care pack

Sweet, salty, and sparkling water

Instacart

Care pack

Soup, tea, tissues, and a note

Amazon

Groceries for one week

Usual household list

Instacart

What people see

This is your card, exactly as it looks to somebody in your community who was already thinking of you. Everything below edits it.

Family Dinner Dallas–Fort Worth · Thursday Table

Marcus Bell

This is the page everyone else reads.

Birthday11 November

A day and a month. No year is stored, so no age is ever shown.

What would land, for me

Favourite meal

The half chicken

Sunday food.

Mot Hai Ba6047 Lewis St, Dallas

$15–40 · Uber Eats

Nothing with shellfish.

Favourite drink

Cortado, no sugar

Ascension Coffee1621 Oak Lawn Ave, Dallas

Under $15 · DoorDash

Nothing with shellfish.

What I do

  • Airport pickup or drop-offtwice a month
  • A home-cooked mealonce a week
  • A grocery runonce a week

My care rhythm

Ask when you need care. Give whenever someone comes to mind. Honor the people who show up.

Your care rhythm

Care is open.

Ask, give, or honor someone who showed up. Each act widens your care reach.

Choose an act

My MCs

Someone you both agreed is the standing person for one act. They do this for you, you do that for them. The other needs stay open, and you can designate those too.

Rita · your MC

They do, for you

A home-cooked meal

You do, for them

Airport pickup or drop-off

Gus asked to be MCs.

They would do help moving for you. You would do a grocery run for them.

Still open

These have no MC yet. Anyone in your community may do them.

  • Airport Pickup
  • Week of Groceries
  • Errand Run
  • Fix-It Help
  • Outing Together
  • 3-Hour Babysitting
  • Check-In Call

People is where you pick someone. The other needs stay open until you both designate one.

For me

Favourite meal, favourite dessert, a birthday. Written once, while nothing is wrong, so the person thinking of you never has to ask.

Cortado, no sugar

Ascension Coffee · 1621 Oak Lawn Ave, Dallas

Under $15 · DoorDash · anyone in your community can see this

The half chicken

Mot Hai Ba · 6047 Lewis St, Dallas

$15–40 · Uber Eats · anyone in your community can see this

A couple more, while you are here:

Days worth remembering

A month and a day, and no year. You never publish your age to be remembered on your birthday.

My birthday

Birthday

11 November · no year is stored, so no age is shown

My father's anniversary

Remembrance

6 February · no year is stored, so no age is shown

Whoever can see this is told the day is coming and told, plainly, that nothing needs to be sent, no order buttons, no price, no “celebrate”. What they are offered instead is your name for it and the free things off your own page.

Dates are the one thing on this page a person is glad you filled in before you needed it. Nobody has to remember, and nobody has to be asked, which is the entire point, the asking is what stops people.

Not right now

From me

The acts of care you are happy to be asked for. One a week is plenty. The cadence never limits what you may give, only how often anyone interrupts you about it.

Care unitAirport Pickup

You drive, or you book the car. Those are different acts.

Ask me2times a

And I’m happy to

✓ Have it sentIn person, after an ID review

Heard in Family Dinner Dallas–Fort Worth and Thursday Table, one promise, not two · 1 left this month

Care unitHome-Cooked Meal

Cooked in your kitchen, carried to theirs.

Ask me1time a

And I’m happy to

✓ Drop it offIn person, after an ID review

Heard in Thursday Table · you are past it this week, which stops the asking and nothing else

Care unitWeek of Groceries

A list, a shop, a doorstep. Or have it sent.

Ask me1time a

And I’m happy to

✓ Have it sent✓ Drop it off

Heard in Family Dinner Dallas–Fort Worth and Thursday Table, one promise, not two · 1 left this week

Care unitPrayer

You can open it as a prayer conversation on iToro.

Ask me1time a

And I’m happy to

✓ Remotely

Heard in Family Dinner Dallas–Fort Worth and Thursday Table, one promise, not two · 1 left this week

Care unitFavorite Dinner
Ask me2times a

And I’m happy to

✓ Have it sent

Heard in Family Dinner Dallas–Fort Worth and Thursday Table, one promise, not two · 2 left this month

Care unitCheck-In Call
Ask meanytimes a

And I’m happy to

✓ Remotely

Heard in Family Dinner Dallas–Fort Worth

Care unitFix-It Help
Ask me1time a

And I’m happy to

In person, after an ID review

Heard in Family Dinner Dallas–Fort Worth and Thursday Table, one promise, not two · 1 left this month

The acts people here actually do

One a week is a complete answer. Sending a meal and cooking one are two different things; offering only the first is a whole answer.

Or something else